I used to hate her, but these days I genuinely feel for her. She's made a couple of choices that I wouldn't have made, but she's still their mom. No good will come of harming her. She does come to just visit. Usually when the kids have some sort of event. It's just a long way to do it a lot. When she moved, she was assuming that we'd continue the alternating weekends, and we did for a while, but it's too much and too far. She couldn't sustain it.